“I should do it, but something seems to stop me!”
“What makes him keep doing that?”
“What came over me? It was such a stupid thing to do!”
“Why do I keep doing that?”
“ I want to stop smoking but I just can’t!”
“He is a real Jackal and Hyde.”
The answer to the above and every question or exclamation of a similar vein, lies in the story of Alter egos, which according to the Australian Oxford Dictionary is, a person’s secondary or alternative personality. I call them Identities, for the dictionary definition is singular, whereas in fact, we all have innumerable personality packages, which serve to identify each of us according to what we are doing, or the role we are engaged in at any particular time. These Identities are not YOU. They are separate from YOU. Because they seem so much a part of your makeup, they APPEAR to be you, but they are definitely not. You and all your Identities are separate entities. Your Identities are no more a part of you than your car, your clothes or your friends.
When a man leaves for work and says cheerio to his children he is in the identity of a father. At the front door, saying cheerio to his wife he is in the identity of a husband. As soon as he gets in the car he is in his car driver’s identity. Once at work he has a different identity again and is recognized as that, perhaps a foreman. On his way home he stops at the club for a few drinks and is then in his ‘one of the boys’ identity. Each and every identity has different personality traits and talking to a stranger at a football match about the game, would give you no idea as to what his occupation was, whether he was married or single or whether he was a father.
Each identity has its own set of behavioral characteristics, which separate it from any other identity. Some identities do of course have similar traits but each identity is unique in its own right. Every identity is created by the person concerned for a specific reason, for a specific activity. We cannot operate in life without identities. Take driving a car as an example. A person starts to create a Car Driving identity the very first time they sit behind the wheel of a car to learn to drive. During that first lesson they would be a menace on a highway or in heavy city traffic, but gradually they acquire the necessary ability and eventually all the mechanics of driving become "second nature." They now operate the car without any attention on "how" to drive, for the mechanics of driving has been delegated to the identity.
This applies to every activity a person is trained in, be it sewing, typing, playing football or writing, so that 'Training' is actually another word for 'creating an identity.' What has happened is that the mechanics of the activity have been handed over to the identity, which leaves the person free to exercise judgment. This is a natural law of existence and there are no exceptions.
All identities are created to solve the problems of day-to-day existence. A young woman feels her life style is very limited by having to rely upon public transport, so to solve the problems this creates, she learns to drive; she creates a car driver's identity. If a golfer is having trouble putting, he needs to start practicing his Putting, until on the green his stance and grip come naturally and all his attention is on 'judging the putt.' Every thing a person does requires an identity to carry it out and it follows that every decision you make requires an existing identity or the creation of a new one to carry out the decision. If it is a new Identity, you have to practice its use and groove it in until you are happy with it, until you can just do it without thinking about how to do it.
This sounds simple enough but there is a downside and that is when an identity is created during stress, trauma and upset, for during these moments, people Invariably make non-optimum, non-survival decisions. How often does an angry person make a rational decision? How often does a really upset person make a rational decision?
Anything you do not like about yourself is not you. It is an unwanted identity that you have created in the past. It was unwittingly created during a moment of stress and trauma. The moment of stress or trauma is buried and occluded in the psyche so that the person concerned is unaware of its existence (See Upset article).
EVERY ADDICTION, EVERY COMPULSION, EVERY HABIT, EVERY UNWANTED FACET OF A PERSON’S PERSONALITY, IS PURELY AN IDENTITY which is out of control. Over time, the identity has gathered more power than the Being who created it, so that it is now the identity, which is in control, hence addictions and unwanted behavior.
Recent research has uncovered the means to separate a person from their UNWANTED and NON SURVIVAL identities, so that the person concerned, the one who created the identities in the first place, can reverse the procedure and discrete them. This leaves the person in full control of that aspect of their life. Another extremely important thing about identities is that when an unwanted identity is eliminated, large portions of “case” (unsociable behavior etc) go with it, obviating the necessity of countless hours of counseling We do not counsel the identity, we simply eliminate it. What has to be understood is that it is pointless in the long term directly addressing non-optimum behaviour because it is the identity, which is behind the behavior ......... IT IS THE IDENTITY, WHICH IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BEHAVIOR, AND IT IS THE IDENTITY, WHICH MUST BE ELIMINATED WITHOUT ADDRESSING IT DIRECTLY WITH COUNSELLING.
This explains why a person will so often revert back to non-optimum behavior, no matter how much counseling they receive on the behavior. All Beings are by nature, optimistic, happy, productive and full of life and love. If they are not, they are under the influence of non-survival identities. By eliminating unwanted identities and their associated Upsets all these natural traits very quickly become a normal part of life.
If a person decides to repeat the affirmation, "Today in every way I am happy" the only conclusion, which can be drawn, is that they are not happy, otherwise they would not have to resort to telling themselves that they are happy. It is obvious that there has to be something buried in their psyche, which makes them unhappy, and this something needs eliminating, so that their natural happiness is paramount. To handle something permanently, you have to remove the cause, not tinker with the manifestation and the cause lies in identities and upsets, beneath which resides the real you, who is full of joie de vivre.
As revolutionary as this concept is, the requisite procedure is remarkably simple and extremely effective.
If you wish to know more about Mace Method or want to handle any aspect of yourself that you do not like, contact me using the information below.
Kallie Miller, RN, Certified Mace Method Practitioner and Trainer
Telephone 1-519-471-6234 in London, Ontario, Canada, Eastern Time Zone