The above title refers to any relationship from marriage to business. No matter what the nature of the relationship, sometimes one person is adversely the effect of the other, but if this is the case there is a remedy.
In any relationship, how one party sees the other is unique. No two people see another in exactly the same way. How a person sees their father is not how their mother sees him. It is not how his own mother sees him. It is not how his work mates see him. It is not how his brother or sister sees him. You can expand this concept as wide as you like, but no two people will have the same precise opinion or more correctly, the same precise image of another.
This is because everyone creates a unique image of those whom they get to know and the unique image is an identity. The identity is in the universe of the viewer not the viewed. It is this created identity, which the person responds to or re-acts to in any relationship - physically they see the other’s body, but they react to the image or identity they have created. Thus, if a person is the effect of another, it is the created identity that they are the effect of and the only power that identity has is the power the viewer endows it with.
Take away its power and it is totally benign. No-one is all bad and it is the perceived negative traits that the partner is the effect of, but it must be understood that the perceived negative traits, may not be perceived as such by someone else – it is how the viewer sees them and the construction they put on them.
In addition to the identity a person creates of another, they also create an identity of their own to handle the other identity and therein lies the ultimate resolution to relationship problems. Both Identities must be un-created. It takes two to tango!
Now because the identity has gone, does not mean that the other person has changed. If for example some traits were Sneaky, Stingy and Critical (from an actual case history) those traits are still there, but the other person will no longer react to them in a negative way. They will be able to accept the other in a more objective manner. They will no longer react to the other person. Rather they will respond appropriately and appropriate choices and decisions will be made.
If you wish to know more about Mace Method or want to handle any aspect of yourself that you do not like, contact me using the information below.
Kallie Miller, RN, Certified Mace Method Practitioner and Trainer
Telephone 1-519-471-6234 in London, Ontario, Canada, Eastern Time Zone